the view from here

So this is (haha backdated post ya) my first day of work after 10 whole days of lazing around and waking up late. Yang paling seronok adalah aku urm period last week, so memang sangat lepak. Hahaha. Siot je rasa. Hari ni juga ada company’s annual CNY lunch at the usual place. Free lunch, sapa tak nak pegi? Memang mengada.

Zufri’s parents are still here in KL. Not really sure when they’re going back. Not really a problem anyway, they are welcomed to stay as long as they want.

Anyway in my last post I said Emma’s getting spoilt, kan? Mari aku cerita contoh-contohnya.

1) If something she’s carrying drops, walaupun jatuh betul-betul kat kaki dia, dan walaupun aku 10 kaki daripada dia, dia akan tunjuk kat barang tu, tengok aku dan kata amek, amek.

2) When we go out and she demands to be carried but I refuse (because most of the time she’ll just scream to be put down), she’ll kiss the floor. Usually I go pick her up because she’s obstructing people. But when the coast is clear, I just leave her there, cium tak cium, and wait for her at a distance. Sometimes she walks back to me, most of the time Zufri picks her up. Itulah masalahnya kot, bila one parent cuba mendisiplin, the other parent coddles her. She’s gonna grow up thinking takpe, mummy tak kasi bapak ada. Not good, huh?

3) If she wants to go somewhere, she’ll grab my hand and say jom jom sambil tangan satu lagi buat gesture mengajak. If I try to pull her to another place, she’ll kiss the floor.

4) If she wants something I don’t give her, she’ll kiss the floor.

5) Bla bla bla, she’ll kiss the floor.

Get the picture? I don’t really care about the staring, and believe me I’ve had my share of stares, its just that sometimes I’m in a rush and I don’t have time to layan her tantrums. She’s not even two years old, and people keep talking about the terrible twos!

I keep telling myself that she’s growing up to be an individual with her own wants, and that this is just a phase. It keeps me sane. My weapon of choice is menjentik telinga. Hahaha. A little reminder here and there is OK to me.

But I once read, and was reminded by Papa lately, that from birth to 7 years old, nurture and care for your child. 7 to what eh, 14 ka, discipline her. 14 to 21 be her friend and at 21 give her wings to fly, set her free. Jadi mungkin sekarang tak perlu terlalu mendisiplin, tapi at the same time, jangan terlalu manjakan Almas.

Entahla dek non, being a parent doesn’t come with a set of manuals. You can do all the research you want, you can listen to as many parents as you want, but it all comes down to what you believe is best for you and your child(ren). Ikutlah kata hati anda. Chewah. Macam dah ada anak 5 pulak nak bagi nasihat keibu bapaan.